07/16/2020 by californiacaregivers
Carefully consider options when caring for elderly loved ones
It is not easy to watch as a loved one begins to decline. Many of my clients are just beginning the process when I meet them. They know they can’t do their finances or household chores, but they are hesitant to let it go. Eight times out of 10 I am brought in by another attorney, a Power of Attorney, or trusted friend.
The truth is it’s easier to have a third person do some of the heavy lifting, although I didn’t know that when I navigated through the "senior morass" with Mom and Dad. As a consequence, we had moments where they weren’t very happy with me. The same thing has happened with clients – my wonderful 87-year-old fought me tooth and nail when I told her she had to move from her home of 50 years to an Assisted Living Center. She’s now been there 11 months and, other than being lonely because of the lockdown, has regained her feistiness and love of song. PHEW!
If you choose to do it yourself here are a few tips, with a caveat: Remember, your loved ones are seniors who added value to your life and should be treated with honor and respect. If you don’t feel that way, hire an attorney.
– Pay attention to the basics. Are your loved ones showering regularly? Are they having regular meals? Are they taking their medication on a timely basis? If not, it’s time to make decisions on how to move forward…